214 – The Four Myths About Domestic Violence

What We Know Now That We Didn’t Know Then
David Wexler

The field of partner abuse has always been riddled by controversy and misinformation, but recent research has deepened our understanding of what underlies abuse and how best to treat abusers. This workshop will break down four common myths about partner abuse and articulate what research tells us about the best ways to help both offenders and victims as well as kids who witness domestic violence. You’ll discover:

    • How to recognize the motivations underlying a wide range of partner abuse, such as power and control, anxious attachment, and narcissistic injury
    • Contemporary perspectives about female abusers, including the myth of self-defense, the impact of trauma history, and effective interventions
    • The myth some victims perpetuate that “it’s not that bad,” or “it’s my fault too,” as well as gaining a deep understanding of counterintuitive victim behavior that can impede treatment
    • How to reach difficult and abusive men more effectively by respecting the power of male shame and using “guy talk” that speaks directly to them


David Wexler, PhD, is a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of relationship in conflict. He’s the executive director of the Relationship Training Institute and the author of six books and many articles and book chapters.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: David Wexler is in private practice. He is the executive director of the Relationship Training Institute.
Non-financial: David Wexler has no relevant non-financial relationship to disclose.

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