401, 501 – Learning from Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity & Pathways to Intimacy
Esther Perel

Parts 1 & 2

Conventional practices say therapists should insist upon full disclosure after an affair, and view all infidelity as a traumatic event. But affairs can also act as a powerful alarm system, shaking couples out of complacency. In this workshop, we’ll locate infidelity within a broader social context of modern marriage, digital culture, and sexuality, exploring the nuance between an affair that breaks a relationship already dying on the vine and one that can remake it. You’ll discover how to:

  • Create a safe and nonjudgmental therapeutic environment to work with secrets, confidentiality, transparency, and truth-telling
  • Clarify the difference between investigative and detective questions
  • Manage the crisis of an affair from a dual perspective that integrates partners’ meanings and motives as well as the impact of the affair
  • Examine the existential, clinical, and ethical aspects involved, and how assumptions, moral values, and personal experiences influence our therapeutic work

Continued with workshop 501


Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, is New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her TED talks have nearly 20 million views. She hosts the Audible podcast Where Should We Begin? and leads the online clinical training platform “Sessions with Esther Perel.”

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Esther Perel is in private practice. She receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc.
Non-financial: Esther Perel is a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA); The Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR); and the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).

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