Healing from Infidelity and Other Interpersonal Wounds
JANIS ABRAHMS SPRING
Most of us have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive, even in the face of deep, interpersonal wounds. But hurt parties—whether injured by an unfaithful partner, critical parent, manipulative friend, or ungrateful child—often find they can’t or won’t forgive, particularly when the offender is unwilling to take a fair share of responsibility for the harm caused and work to make repairs. In this workshop, you’ll learn a radical, life-affirming alternative to forgiveness, which can be implemented by the hurt party alone. You’ll discover how to:
- Differentiate between forgiveness as it’s traditionally defined and acceptance as a tool to free clients from their bitterness and preoccupation with their wounds
- Coach hurt parties to reframe the personal meaning of a deeply wounding experience
- Explore ways to deliver an apology that’s specific and heartfelt
- Empower both parties to acknowledge a fair share of responsibility for the injury to foster personal growth and perhaps reconnection and genuine forgiveness
Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, ABPP, is a former clinical supervisor at Yale University and author of After the Affair, How Can I Forgive You? and Life with Pop.