When you find yourself in the presence of a narcissistic client, especially in couples therapy, the impulse is often to run and hide. They can be belligerent, self-righteous, defiant, entitled, arrogant, and stubbornly blind to their hurtful behaviors. Add in a hypersexual mode, and you’re often confronted with a history of serial affairs, sexual abuse and misconduct, and other erotic preoccupations that destroy relationships and leave partners betrayed and wounded. In this workshop, you’ll learn proven methods for staying sturdy and empathic when addressing their bullying behavior and healing the shame and trauma that often underlies their behavior. You’ll discover how to:
- Help narcissistic clients resolve their early unmet needs, including unconditional love and acceptance, empathy, and tolerance for frustration
- Work with narcissists involved in excessive sexual activity that includes pornography, cyber-sexual relationships, prostitutes, and affairs
- Use leverage to rebuild fractured relationships between narcissists and those they’ve hurt
- Validate the hurt partners of narcissists when doing couples therapy
Wendy Behary, LCSW, is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She’s the author of Disarming the Narcissist and Let’s Face It!.